Urenna works within the healthcare profession but considers herself a minister at heart. She is a gifted public speaker and also serves as a worship leader at her local church. She has a passion for seeing people grow in their walk with God, which led her to start the online Christian magazine Reach and Inspire Magazine. She can be contacted for public speaking engagements via this platform.
In my last article, I talked about the importance of praying for what you want in a spouse. It’s good to pray for what you want in a partner but even more important is working on yourself to become what you believe God expects a husband or a wife to be.
Prayer should be a key part of the life of any Christian. As children of God, we must believe that God is interested in every little detail of our lives, marriage included (even though I wouldn’t call it little!)
I’ve had one or two break ups in my time and I can testify that it can be one of the hardest times a person can face. It is especially difficult if it wasn’t a mutual decision, and you didn’t want the relationship to end. But, even when you’re the instigator of the break-up, it can still be a very hard decision to make and you can end up questioning whether you’ve made the right decision. But, I truly believe that the end of a relationship, for the right reasons, does not have to be a bad thing. Break-ups can and should be seen in a positive light, and I’ll share five reasons why.
So a few months ago I came across an article about ‘China’s leftover women’. These are women over the age of 27 that are not married. The article resonated with me because it is so similar to what myself and thousands of other women in different parts of the world have experienced; that feeling that you haven’t quite made it unless you’re married, no matter how successful you are. What I found saddest about the article was the fact that the parents did not help the issue but instead added to the pressure. Parents that make their daughters feel like failures just because they are not married appear to have no idea the negative effect that it has on their self-esteem.
I attended a friend’s wedding recently. It was beautiful, as well as emotional. As I looked at the bride walking down the aisle, looking regal in her wedding dress, eyes fixed on her handsome groom, I couldn’t help but remember my own wedding. Walking towards my soon to be husband all those months ago, I remember being so excited and thinking, ‘I can’t believe this is finally happening!’ I had wanted to be married for a long time and when that day finally came, I was filled with too many emotions to put into words.
Recently I was speaking to a friend about marriage, and as I listened to them talk about how much they wanted to be married, I felt like I was looking at a younger version of myself. I could definitely relate to the longing and desire to have someone to share your whole life with. This was me only a few years ago. I gave her some well-meaning advice which I hope she took on board, but it got me thinking; if I could speak to my younger self, what would I say? What would I want her to know? So, I wrote a letter.
In simple terms, a godly relationship is one that glorifies God and one where God is at the centre. The Bible says, ‘can two walk together except they agree?’ (Amos 3:3) If you’re in a relationship that you’re hoping will lead to a happy marriage, it is worth asking yourself, ‘does this relationship glorify God?’ There are a few ways to tell if your relationship glorifies God or not. Ask yourself these questions: