André Adefope is the Head of Relationship Development at Naked Truth Project, the co-author of The Dating Dilemma, and oversees the Naked Truth Relationships project. He is based in Manchester, and has years of experience teaching and supporting people in the area of building God-centred relationships, and is passionate about seeing relationships thrive.
After a recent talk I did on dating, a woman in her mid 20s asked to speak with me. She explained that she had dated someone before for a long time and thought they would eventually get married. She then said:
‘He was great, but the enjoyment had been missing for a while, so we ended it. Have I lost ‘the One’?’
‘I’ve never laughed so hard. I’m not saying everything has been easy, but it’s going so well’. This is what a friend said to me recently about his new relationship. They’ve been dating for about six months now, and he seemed almost embarrassed by the fact he was enjoying himself.
When I was dating, I remember thinking that if I was like an alpha male, I would get a girlfriend. I had to be the life and soul of the party, be really funny, then it would work out. Then after attracting these many women (I cringe looking back now), I would find someone.