Author Archives: Brandy Coty

I’m not sure what else to do. I’ve given you hints. I smile at you when we are around each other. I intently look at you when we are conversing. I giggle at the stupid things you say. I try to make you feel encouraged and supported when you are having a bad day. I’ve done my part, now it’s your turn.

The combination of Whirleyball, Italian food and deep conversation made for a very entertaining Saturday night with friends. As I filled my stomach with Patrizio’s and conversed with a male friend about gender roles, my mind began to wander.

My friend referenced Genesis 3:16, and as I heard him say the words, “Your desire shall be for your husband,” my unfocused brain thought: There are so many singles here tonight; why aren’t any of them dating?

There have been two distinct times in my life when I’ve wanted to call it quits and break up with Christianity. The first was in my early 20s and the second was last week. Both times I felt frustrated, overwhelmed, and sick of doing the right thing. Both times I wished I could go back to the time in my life when I didn’t know the truth about Jesus. I longed to return to the time in my life when the Holy Spirit wasn’t nudging me to do what’s right. To return to the time when I could give into the desires of my flesh and not feel the wresting in my spirit that I was doing something wrong.

Tall, dark and handsome. Many women would include these three adjectives on their wish list. Women often swoon over tall, dark and handsome celebrities, they visualise what the tall, dark and handsome fictional character in their latest romance novel really looks like, and they dream about the tall, dark and handsome man they expectantly long for.

Being a single Christian in today’s world continues to be increasingly difficult.
It hurts my heart every time I hear one of my single friends say, “I’m enjoying being single right now.” If we’re not careful, those words can be decrypted to mean “I’m enjoying my life of selfishness.” Part of the reason many people are choosing a life of singleness is because some singles ministries make being single fun and exciting. Commitment and intentionality are inadvertently being discouraged by increased opportunities to go on group dates and see members of the opposite sex without pursuit.